It’s been a rough couple of days. Yesterday was the one year anniversary of losing Noah and today marks 11 months since Natalie passed.
Yesterday morning I woke up with tears in my eyes and reached for “Noah” (the reborn doll) and held him. I rocked him and rubbed his back while tears silently slipped away.
I looked over at Don, still in a dead sleep and I rested Noah on his chest, trying to remember what it looked like when Tayla was that tiny…
I indulged in my grief for a few more minutes and then got ready to start the day.
I had an appointment with the endocrinology department to follow up on my diabetes.
The nurse took me back to a room and asked if I wanted to have my A1c drawn. (The A1c is a blood test that measures what percent of glucose, or sugar has bonded to your blood cells. It changes every 3 months and I was told if I got it down to seven percent before I got pregnant, it would be like I wasn’t diabetic at all.)
“It’s only been three weeks” I told the nurse.
“So do you want to skip it? Shey said to leave it up to you…”
I thought about it for a moment before replying.
“I HAVE been kicking tons of ass these past three weeks, let’s check it!”
Why I volunteered to have myself poked again when I know damn well I have to do it to myself seven more times throughout the day is beyond me.
She pricked my finger and took my meter to download all the information and told me Shey would be with me shortly.
A couple of minutes later, she knocked on the door as she walked into the room.
“Did she tell you?” Shey asked
“Tell me what?”
“Your A1c, it changes and in what takes people three months to do, you have done in three weeks. You have dropped an entire percentage point! You need to find something really nice to do for yourself… this is great work. Some women get pedicures, others get flowers…”
I cut her off.
“I can have flowers or I can have cats” I told her.
Later that night I went to my group, it was good to be around people even though I didn’t feel very social. Sometimes anything is better than being alone with my thoughts.
“One down, one to go” I thought as I readied for bed.
I woke up this morning thinking about her. It was a thought I’m pretty sure I’ve had before, but this morning I felt it.
“God, I am so lucky to have had Nat in my life. Such a phenomenal person… I’m so thankful to have had what time I did with her.”
I actually did a double take, you know, to see who the fuck was thinking these almost foreign words… then, as cheesy as it sounds? I felt my heart smile. I felt at peace. It lasted only a minute as the flood of other memories came frantically on top of one another, all fighting for their 15 minutes but I did wonder how much of it had to do with the A.R.T therapy.
On top of it being the 11 month anniversary, it’s a damn dreary day… so, I decided what I wanted to do for myself and thought it also was something Nat would like too.
I went back to Empire Beauty School and had my hair done. I also listened to The Steve Miller Band, The Joker, and heard Nat sing along like she used to do-
“Cause I’m a picker, I’m a grinner
I’m a lover, and I’m a sinner
I play my music in the sun
I’m a joker, I’m a smoker
I’m a midnight toker
I sure don’t want to hurt no one”
“Well don’t you worry, don’t worry, no don’t worry mama
Cause I’m right here at home”
Sometimes when I think about her too much, I want to just hurry up through life and be done with it so I can be with her again… and as much as I miss her and how much it hurts, another song comes to mind…
Why did I just do that to myself?!?!? If you have kleenex nearby and want a good cry, check out the video above. It has the lyrics posted that that’s what broke me. Momentarily.
So, what did I do with my hair? Oddly enough, I was excited to get it back to my “normal”, natural, boring (no crazy colors) color with a few highlights. Again, they did a fantastic job! Really happy with the results!
Not the greatest pic but good enough, dammit. And good enough is kinda what I’ve been going for… so… NAILED IT.